When It Gets Too Much…

Wow, it’s already been more than a week since I’ve been away, so I thought I’d give you a little update on what’s been going on. I haven’t done much blogging stuff at all, no taking pictures, no selfies and I’ve even been quiet on Twitter and Instagram. I’ve always been quiet on Facebook, so that doesn’t count. I decided to take a break because life got a little crazy, and my hormones matched. It was overwhelming, Β when there was a sudden surge of emails regarding product testing, emails asking me when I’ll be posting the reviews… and I thought, hey, let’s take a step back. Is this what I want?

 

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Sure, some might think it is flattering that PRs and companies start noticing a blog and want to hand out candies, but they all come with obligations. If you’re a blogger, you’d know and if you’re a reader, no, these are not just freebies that I happily take. I want to believe in a certain product, or maybe I’d feel generous to introduce you some unknown brand but I never noticed the pressure until now. Work and real life have not exactly been easy breezy either, so when added up, I need TIME OUT!

It was refreshing not doing anything blog related, and I managed to sort out some personal stuff and I am more actively looking for an alternate work environment that is more in line with my personal goals. I am replying many emails with a “No thank you” and I feel more liberated. When it boils down to the centre of things, like why I started this blog in the first place, it was like an online diary for my princesses and it still is. Readership grew, expectations grew and my main purpose lost. I don’t aim to be a top blogger nor do I work for it to be one. I don’t aspire to take this blog full time nor do I want to make a living from it. I respect those who do this full time AND earn enough to sustain their lifestyles, but Β it’s not my goal. Not now anyway πŸ˜›

So, while I will be back writing reviews and doing tutorials and looks, I want to put it out there, that I am doing this because I am passionate about it. I sacrifice my own time and money to keep this blog alive, so I wish some people will understand that I will NOT just bow and wag my tail like a happy little puppy when you offer me free stuff. If I really like something, I’ll purchase it. I do have a day time job, and I am not a blogger who lives off freebies or give you a list of things to send me.

Whew! Something off my chest for everyone to read, a little harsh here and there, but it just feels so much lighter. If you have anything you want to get off your chest, join in!! Let’s have a little rant session. I hear it’s healthy to get the negativity out and after that, we’ll work on getting our zen back.

OK. As you were πŸ™‚

 

xoxo Lily

 

 

 

 

  • You look so beautiful! πŸ™‚
    I applaud you for this post. I enjoy reading all of your posts, because all of them are high quality reads. I think it says a lot about you to turn down offers you don’t think are in line w/your goals πŸ˜€

    • Thank you Jen πŸ™‚ I’m glad you understand too!

  • Lyn

    Clap clap! I’ve been saying no for a long time now and have turned down countless events because of work commitments.

    • Initially it felt odd to say no so it was definitely a learning process πŸ™‚ Ah, I can never go to events anyway. They’re never where I live, and I’d never travel that far just for an event >.<

  • Lyn

    It’s always good to take a breather and reassess your priorities πŸ™‚

    PS – Sorry, didn’t mean to comment twice but accidentally submitted previous comment before completing it. Am using my phone to reply :-\

    • Oh, LOL! Hi again! I do that all the time, so don’t worry πŸ™‚ And YES, a break is the best to reassess priorities!

  • This is actually a good thing to be honest. Its good to realise this early rather than when you’re right in the deep end and really really struggling to swim πŸ™‚ Have absolutely no intention to go at it full time either. It sounds too much like a job. Best to just have fun. Its your space after all.

    • You’re right. It’s my space, so my rules, eh? I’m glad I started this blog late – i.e. at my age. If I were any younger or more eager, I’d be a door mat. LOL!

  • BooBooNinja

    You can’t see me but know that I’m applauding you. Good for you! (I’m of few words to tonight.)

    • Thank you dear πŸ™‚ Your few words are enough to encourage me!

  • Aww so sorry to hear things got overwhelming for you! I haven’t really met pushy PRs (knocking on wood), but I know what you mean. You can’t want it all, because you can’t possibly work with everything, and working with things you know you won’t like is a waste of everyone’s time. Taking a step back is a good idea. I hope you’ll find your balance back soon!

    • I’m definitely going to get my balance back, Sunny. And I know you’re going on your holiday soon, so have lots of fun!

  • It’s true! Put your foot down, Lily! It isn’t your job, so it has to stay fun.

    • That’s right. It has to be fun and effortless, words have to flow without a thought… so when I struggled, I knew it was time to step away. I’m glad to be back though… on a more leisurely basis. LOL!

  • YES. I get pushy PR people bugging me too-I always wondered if anybody else did. It’s like they think everyone that blogs does it full-time. Pffft. Good for you!

    • You get that too, so you definitely know how annoying it can be!! They just think that bloggers are hungry for products and we’d do anything to get it. It’s mind boggling, really.

  • HI Lily! I thankfully have not reached that stage in blogging. And I don’t think I want to because at the moment its a little personal hobby that I enjoy. But I can understand already how you need to juggle your real life with your loved ones, your real job and all other things, which are your really important priorities. In my case my real life is home with my boyfriend, my current job, my huge passion: playing the piano (Tomorrow I have the end of course concert where I have to play so I have had to practice hard)…. etc… Sometimes theres no time to do everything. You’re doing a wonderful job in my humble opinion, and its a lovely thing for your two beautiful princesses. I dont have a princess, but I do hope to have one (or a prince) and hopefully if (when) I do can do it all as well as you. xx

    • Hey Sofia. Thank you for your kind words. In the end, the most important thing is me in real life. This is just a hobby πŸ™‚

  • Liz

    Welcome back! I missed your crazy ass. πŸ˜‰

    My motto re: blogging was always do it for fun. The second it stops being that, I’m doing it wrong. It means saying no to a lot of things. But that’s hardly a sacrifice, especially if it means we’re doing what we love to do, whether it’s as an actual job or as a hobby on the side. Good luck with your search!

    • I missed your crazy ass too!! LOL! Yes, need the luck with a job search. I mean, I’m still employed so I won’t starve but a change of environment will do my soul good. My spirit is ebbing away each day I’m here. Eeps!

      • Liz

        I know all about that! Got so bad that I had to quit before lining up the next gig. You’re wise to start now. πŸ™‚

        • Well, I’m not sure if I should say I’m glad you know how I feel, but I sure am happy that someone does understand what’s going on πŸ™‚

  • Bugs

    Yes yes, I want a happy Lily!!! When you are happy, it’ll show and we can sense that too when we read your posts.

    • Aww, thank you Bugs. It makes me happy to have readers like you πŸ™‚

  • Jennifer

    You’ve character…and I like πŸ™‚ I find it great that you highlight and reiterate some points such as you’ve day job, you’ll purchase if you like it enough etc and of course, you put in money and effort to sustain your blog and the heritage for the lil princesses. You go girl! Clap clap!!!

    • Thank you Jennifer. I hope I didn’t step on too many people’s toes with this post, but so far, it’s great to have all these positive feedback πŸ™‚ I am so lucky to have you guys!

  • Good for you, Lily. The hardest word to learn to say is “No”, even though it’s one of the shortest an easiest to pronounce! When it becomes a “job” instead of an outlet for your passion, it’s just not fun any more. Plus, I see a lot of sponsored posts that lack any pizzaz – it’s like you can tell the blogger wasn’t into the product but had an obligation to post something. And at that point, it’s defeating the purpose of beauty blogging. Might as well go buy a nat’l magazine and read the beauty section where they adore everything and never meet a product with any dissatisfaction. I too have a FT job (though no kids – kudos to you for finding balance!) and though I’ve only rec’d 1 item from PR for review in 7 months, I kind of fear it in a way b/c I don’t want it to become a “grind” that I “have” to do. When it stops being about sharing the things that you genuinely love, it’s time to take a break and refocus. Good for you, girl. Lots of love and thanks for letting us all vent! πŸ™‚ Your blog is always a pleasure to read and your fun spirit comes shining through! πŸ™‚

    • Aww, thanks Kristen πŸ™‚ It is surprising how difficult it is to say such a simple word. I should learn from my 4-year-old. There seems to be a “No” every time she opens her mouth. Haha! And yes, you can definitely tell when a review is done out of obligation. That’s why I think those who blog full time AND still sound sincere are a rare find, and they are GEMS.

  • Hi Lily,

    I haven’t replied to this since I’ve been so busy getting my work done before my holidays.. And now I am on holidays and the connection is a bit crappy here.. Anyway! I’m online and kicking now πŸ™‚

    I get how sometimes everything can get a little overwhelming – I’ve been there too. I’ve slowly learned how to say no though, and have also learned not to feature anything on the website just because ‘I have to’. I don’t do ads or advertorials on my blog, so it’s all my own money, and if I’m going to invest my time & money into it.. Then I really want to enjoy doing it! Especially when on the side we have a life & a full time job to maintain too.

    I hope you find your groove & blog mojo back.. Which I’m sure you will πŸ™‚ And I hope you don’t ever feel bad saying that you just haven’t had the time yet, or that you just don’t like it enough to feature it to a PR rep. It’s your blog, you’re online princesses diary, your hobby, your time, your project, .. So it’s all your decision too! And I enjoy reading it.. So keep that up! πŸ™‚

    Isabelle

    • Well said, Isabelle πŸ™‚ Thanks so much for the encouragement! I’ve been so busy lately, I couldn’t even write more even if I wanted to. So, July’s been the slowest month since I started the blog. Oh well, real life comes first. LOL!

  • your pictures are so cute! lol. Good luck on the job search! I am happy that you have had a good rest too πŸ™‚

    • Thanks Joyce. Now it’s a little difficult to get into the blogging rhythm. LOL!