A Little Update Since Ashton

Hello everyone! It feels like I haven’t been writing anything for ages because whatever posts you’ve been reading so far were scheduled way ahead of time. So while you’ve been getting regular updates here, I’ve been slacking off somewhere else. LOL! It is a little weird to be typing away on my laptop at the moment, especially with the addition of the youngest family member. If you’ve been following me on any of the other social media (Twitter, Instagram, Facebook), you’d probably already know what’s been going on, but if you haven’t, a little manΒ popped out of my tummy a few weeks ago.

 

Ashton hand

 

Little Ashton was a 3.62kg (8 pounds) newborn and he is my 3rd baby. It was the first time I took an epidural, and the birth process was literally stress free. I pushed less than 5 times, and he was out! I have to say the most uncomfortable part was the administering of the epidural. I didn’t mind the needle, but HATED it when they inserted the tube (or whatever you call it) into my spine. I was a little nauseated as the effects of the epidural wore off, but other than that, the recovery was pretty smooth. Oh wait, I had a problem taking my first pee after delivery but you know, I just couldn’t get over the fact that a few pairs of eyes were looking at me as I tried to pee. The nurses wouldn’t let me go alone, saying it was still too early for me to be walking on my own to the toilet. OKAY THEN.Β I was bleeding quite a bit, so I had to stay in the hospital for 2 days after delivery. Ashton had jaundice, but we were allowed home and he didn’t have to stay in the hospital for the UV treatment. Regular check ups were needed, but we were all thankful that everything was fine.

Many in my country go through a confinement period after delivery. Different cultures call for different ways, and for me, I basically had to sit at home for 28 days, eating confinement food that consist of lots of meat, greens and mild herbs. After the 12th day of delivery, I’d be introduced to Chinese vinegar, wines and potions, but I made sure they were cooked thoroughly so there were no traces of alcohol left. A confinement lady stays with me to cook and help with the baby but they’re usually plagued with the thinking that feeding formula is better for the baby. I had to be firm but polite to tell her to shut the hell up and let me breastfeed in peace, and supplement with formula when it was absolutely necessary. I am by no means a purist when it comes to breastfeeding and I allow flexibility, but I hated it when these confinement ladies try their best to sway me to feed formula. To be fair, these are older ladies who are not well informed but they do know how to cook a good meal and take care of the baby. *rant over*

I am a little emotional postpartum, but I learned to relax and let go else I might go into depression! My husband has been very supportive even when I sometimes throw tantrums like a little child, and when I calmed down, he was my voice of reason. For that, I am very thankful. Baby Ashton is safe and healthy, and so am I, and sometimes, that’s all that matters. Also, Ashton has dimples on both his cheeks and I caught the moment and showed you on my Instagram account already. He also loves to smile (even though it’s just his reflects) but every time he does it, he’s sucking on my boobies. While I love you all to bits and I want to show you his sweet smile, I’m not ready for that kind of intimacy yet πŸ˜› Also, does that mean he’s a boobie man, or maybe he’s just high on milk? I dunno…

 

Ashton collage

 

He will be one month old soon, and we will have a big celebration for him. Then, my confinement period will be over, and I will finally be able to do my own thing. Chloe and Ashlyn love their little brother, treating him like the most fragile and precious little thing ever. It’s so moving to see how gentle these girls can be, and how eager they want to help. So eager that they’d fight to help and start giving me headache. Every time Ashton cries, Ashlyn offers her nipple which made everyone laugh.Β LOL!

There are so many things to update you guys, but I have the tendency to go into details, and that would make this post a novel. I don’t think we want that. This is a beauty blog, not a baby / mommy blog. I get that πŸ˜›

There are a few more scheduled posts running through to the end of the month, and then I’ll have to learn to blog with the baby around. I hope you’ve been enjoying the posts so far, mainly reviews I’ve been wanting to churn out – and when I’m back, I’ll try to put up something different. I don’t know if I’m capable, since I’ll still be zombified from lack of sleep, but we’ll see. Until then, you can still catch me on Instagram or Twitter – I’m less active on Facebook.

Stay well, stay beautiful and let’s prepare for year end and a brand new year!

 

xoxo Lily

 

  • Oh, Lily! This is the sweetest post I have read all year — even just through text, it is obvious how much you (and the girls!) love the newest little member of your family.

    I am so, so happy to hear that the delivery went well and you’re all healthy & at home now. Sending lots of love your way πŸ™‚

    • Lily

      Thanks Rae whale! I’m still adjusting to caring for a newborn full time, but since this is going to be the last time, I’m going to try to enjoy it – panda eyes and all πŸ™‚

  • OMG THE DIMPLES. It obviously makes sense that babies would have dimples, but I swear I have never even considered the possibility of a baby with dimples. Cuteness factor x 9000!!!

    So glad that the delivery went well and that your family is adjusting well to this BEAUTIFUL addition!

    • Lily

      LOL! Not all babies have dimples though πŸ™‚ And thanks! I’m also very happy the delivery went well. Whew!

  • dowantmakeup

    What a beautiful little man! So happy to hear that you and baby are doing well. LOL at the boobies part… he still has lots of time to decide if he’s a boob guy or not.

    I remember my grandmother made my aunt do the confinement period. She lived for a month at my grandmother’s house and her poor husband had to go over there to see his wife and baby!

    • Lily

      Thanks Angela πŸ™‚ My confinement is at my own house so lucky for that, husband is around. For my first baby, I did it at my mom’s so like you said, poor husband had to drive over to see me and the baby. LOL!

  • Hey Lily, awwww squeee cute!!! I can’t believe formula milk is deemed as more desirable there tho! I thought breastfeeding is a bit of a worldwide trend! The Taiwanese government recently went as far as to forbidding giving discounts on formula milk, which is definitely one step too far (not everyone can breastfeed even if she wants to) but the idea behind it is breastfeeding is the better option.

    Anyways… man he’s a cutie! Perfectly formed with nice dimples πŸ™‚ Congrats again!

    • Lily

      Thank you Sunny.
      My peers are keen on breastfeeding, but confinement ladies are usually a generation older. They’re usually pretty set in their ways, not prone to change. I do think it’s pretty cruel not to have any discounts on formula, since like you said, not everyone can breastfeed. I know many people say that all women have breast milk and if feeding exclusively and stimulating the breasts all the time, there will be more supply. Sad thing is, this statement is not 100% true or applicable to everyone, and those who can’t meet the demands of the baby’s needs feel stressed and disappointed… which will lead to less supply (emotional stress)!.
      Anyway, that’s a whole different story. Like I said, I’m not a purist. My baby drinks a lot, and I don’t have enough supply. Hence, I supplement. Do you know that there are women out there who judge just because you don’t breastfeed your baby exclusively? It’s like WTF. Get your own life and your own drama.
      And I digress…as usual. LOL!

      • Yeah I’ve heard about those breastfeeding Nazis! It’s insane!

        • Lily

          Lol at breastfeeding Nazis. Hahahaha! I literally snorted.

  • Glad to hear you and baby Ashton are well! He’s such a cutie! My sister went to do her month of confinement a hospital provided nursery, so the advice wasn’t so old school… But of course she didn’t escape mother/mother in law/aunts/random neighbours of in-laws views on everything and anything πŸ˜‰

    • Lily

      Thank you!! I don’t know about your sister, but if I was at the receiving end of unwanted “advice”, I’d explode. Hahaha!

  • Awww Lily such a nice update and he is sooo cute! All that epidural talk, ok if I ever have a baby, I’ll consult you about these thing before! I thought it would be known that breastfeeding should be better whenever possible. I do like this confinement thing, oh it must be way better than having to stand up and run around as if nothing had happened. I remember when I used to work in pharmacies, I had these women come to me saying oh I’m so painful give me something, I just had a baby yesterday… and I would be like, what the hell are you doing walking into, standing in my pharmacy if you just had a baby yesterday, you should be lying down resting!
    Anyway, he is adorable, maybe he looks like you. And with gorgeous dimples like you too πŸ™‚ Its so nice to know his sisters are over the moon with him too. Enjoy these precious moments. xxx

    • Lily

      Thank you Sofia!! Yes, confinement period is meant for us to rest, replenish and strengthen our bodies. It’s just that certain ‘rules’ are a little too extreme in my books so I don’t follow. It’s crazy to be walking around the day after giving birth! I was in the hospital for 3 days! Hahaha

  • He’s cute as a button πŸ™‚ And tiny as one, too! Which makes him even more adorable! Thanks for the little update. I think it’s really admirable that you managed to get back into blogging so fast!

    • Lily

      Thanks Melissa. This is the only post I wrote for the entire month (or longer). The rest of the posts are all scheduled until Christmas. I guess I’ll be blogging again soon, but very likely not as often πŸ™‚

  • Bella

    Thanks so much for this lovely update!! What a beautiful, healthy bouncy baby boy you have! Oh man, I’d hate to be stuck in the house with a formula freak, I think you are showing extreme grace and style here LOL. I had an epidural with both my kids and I really don’t see why anyone would want to go without LOL! The contractions were so awful I didn’t even feel the needle in my case. Enjoy the rest of your inetense bonding period and the coming celebration!

    • Lily

      Thank you Bella! I had my first 2 girls without epidural. I don’t know why I didn’t take epidural either. LOL!

  • Victoria

    He is gorgeous! Already following you on Instagram so I have seen your updates about him. I am due to deliver my son on 1 February and hope all goes well too. I pretty adamant about breastfeeding my son and hope not to give him any formula milk because of the growth hormone it contains. Been preparing myself mentally about this with breastfeeding class, Facebook support group (TBAN) and having sort of a breastfeeding buddy. By God’s grace and with hubby’s support, I hope to succeed πŸ™‚

    • Lily

      Congratulations Victoria!!
      And I wish you plenty of breast milk. LOL! There are women who have plenty, so much that they have to freeze the supply, and there are those who can only meet the baby’s demand. Then, there are those like me who join every single forum, try every single thing, and yet, still have to supplement with formula.

      I wish you success in breastfeeding, but should you struggle, do remember not to stress about it. Stress will shrink your milk supply making it worse. All the best!

  • Congratulation Lily, your boy is such a cutie!
    Can’t wait for your post(s)

    ps: i don’t mind baby/family post at all!

    • Lily

      Thank you Yunie! I will have updates on the baby once in a while πŸ™‚

  • Liz

    LMAO Ashlyn!!!!!!! OMG, that is HILARIOUS. Ashton’s adorable and I want to kiss those chubby cheeks! And yeah, you tell that confinement lady what’s what and do what you gotta do. It’d be amazing if you can breastfeed and blog at the same time, LOL.

    • Lily

      Hahaha! Yes, Ashlyn is full of surprises and she loves making people laugh. I don’t know how it’s gonna be once there isn’t extra help, so fingers crossed, it’s gonna be fine πŸ™‚ So if you don’t see any new posts for a while, it means I’m not coping. LOL!

  • Congratulations, Lily! Your family is very beautiful. πŸ™‚ Welcome to the world, baby Ashton!

    • Lily

      Thank you Carina πŸ™‚

  • Jaa

    Congrats again, Lily! Look at him! What a cutie pie! πŸ˜€ Those dimples, oh my, wish I could plant a reeeeeeeally biiiiiiig kiss on his cheeks!!! πŸ˜€

    Thanks for keeping us updated on the situation. This is all new to me and the epidural/spine thing really freaks me out. x_x Little Ashlyn is adorable! LOL! I’d laugh so hard, too!

    I can’t believe how you still have time to pop by to blog and comment! Kudos to you super mama! πŸ˜€

    How do you politely tell someone to shut the hell up, though? LOL!

    • Lily

      Thanks Jaa. I guess there isn’t a polite way to say “SHUT UP!” but you know, if you beat around the bush to tell her off, she’ll sooner or later get the hint. LOL!

  • The confinement period thing is very interesting! Here women have babies and are traveling with them and taking them out to public restaurants 3 days later! I don’t have any babies {yet} but quite like the idea of 28 days at home before rocking out into the world. You and your husband make the most gorgeous little people! Thank you for sharing this update, much love and hugs to you and your beautiful and healthy brood!

    • Lily

      Thank you for your kind words! Yes, I believe in taking proper rest before going out and about, and also letting my body recover completely before exercising. Some of my friends are so eager to lose their baby fat that they start exercising after 2 weeks. Yikes! How can our body recover completely in such a short time after going through such a tremendous change??

  • Gah, how did I miss this? I love the humor you maintain in everything, Lily! And your take-charge attitude πŸ™‚ It seems like everyone has opinions about everything and want to tell you what to do. UGH.

    • Lily

      Yup, everyone has opinions about every friggin thing but I don’t have the heart to tell them to mind their own business. It’ll break their heart. Why can’t be a completely selfish and total biatch??