Monthend Randomness: Let’s Talk About Love

I had a rant on blogging and my addiction to beauty stuff a while back <you can read it here if you’re curious> and I brought up the possibility of not blogging anymore. Friends were encouraging me to continue blogging, but maybe talk about something other than beauty related. I thought that was a really good idea. I went through my blog, and noticed that a large chunk of it is product review. I try to be helpful and as honest as possible, and it’s come to a point where I have to be really selective with what I say yes to. I don’t have enough time to test everything properly, and I’m not one to just use a product once and give you a half assed review. Testing skincare sometimes breaks me out, and when I see those bumps on my face, I start wondering if it’s really what I want. No, I don’t want to break out. And the truth of the matter is, I’m getting bored.

 

Now, let’s talk about something different today. Let’s talk about love. How lucky are most of us, to be able to love freely and openly? And now, more people can πŸ™‚ Let me tell you about my love story with Mr ChloeAsh. It started when we were about 13 years old. We were friends then. My brother and he were in the national swimming team and I met him during their training sessions. We went to different schools but we had some extra classes together, and we had music lessons with the same teacher. He was pretty awkward and shy. He had to ask his cousin to call me to go out for a movie! We went on a few dates, but he had to leave for the States to continue his training for the Olympics. We were 16 then. He’d come back now and then, and we’d hang out, but we never officially ‘dated’, you know? He’d compile songs in a cassette for me, and then he’d burn it on a CD and now, he just puts the songs in a pen drive for me. How fast does technology change? My kids don’t know what a cassette is. LOL!

 

So anyway, it was time for me to go study abroad in Australia. I think we made a verbal promise that we wouldn’t see other people, but I was seeing other people and broke up with him on the phone. It’s really funny because it was just so innocent. We went about our own lives but still continued to call each other. Well, he’d call me more often because ahem, I was playing hard to get. You know, teenagers. I came home after a few years, started working, and he was still in the States. I went to visit him in Minnesota during winter the year he was supposed to come home. It was a confusing time, because we’d do things a couple would, but we weren’t dating. I was completely mindfucked and I’m pretty sure he was too. LOL! We went to New Orleans for Mardi Gras and man! I haven’t seen so many boobies in my entire life!

 

One day, after he came home for good and after a few get togethers that were not dates, we just somehow started seeing each other exclusively. It was just the most natural transition. Of course, there was that first kiss, somewhere BEFORE we officially dated (naughty!) and after a few years of officially dating, we got married. He’s still very much a gentleman. He’d cook for me because I’m lazy, he’d learn to cook dishes I love, and I’d bake cakes and cookies for him because he has a sweet tooth. We’re really open with each other, and we have literally seen each other do everything we would only do in private. Whatever you’re thinking now, I’m pretty sure the answer is Yes, I’ve seen him do that. Or, yes, he’s seen me do that. Doesn’t make any of us less attractive. He shaved my pubes once. It was more scary than it was awkward. I may have been screaming for him to be careful the whole time. I might have been pregnant with our second child then, can’t remember. Hehe! I still can’t stand it when he eats with his mouth open though. And he can’t stand it when I just happen to block his way all the time. Hahahaha!

 

Does it mean this is true love? I don’t know what that is. I know that, it takes understanding, patience, trust, selflessness, acceptance and openness from both of us. And lots of communication. I guess we only do these things for people we love. If we could doΒ all these for strangers, would you think we would be spared from arguments, fights, riots, wars? Love comes in all sorts of forms. There is no definition of who or what we could love. I love good skincare, while some will say I’m wasting money that could be used for bags. So, let’s just all embrace our hearts, be happy for others, be accepting of differences and just love.

 

If you read everything, I LOVE YOU! Now your turn. Tell me about your love story. It can be with your pet, your high school crush that no one knew, or maybe your fetish with… ribbons? Anything. Let’s talk about love, and let us all soak in all the feel good factor. Well, it could be something that didn’t end up well, but the point of the matter is, we loved πŸ™‚

 

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xoxo Lily

 

 

  • I LOVED THIS!!! SO GREAT!! Your love story is so sweet! This is what I want all of us to do more often, instead of just churning out reviews all the time! TAKE BACK OUR BLOGS AND BLOG!
    Terry and I started out long distance-kind of like you guys too. Eventually, when I finished school I moved to another province, and then moved here when a job became available. We are like you guys-we’re pretty comfortable with each other and have seen pretty much everything but NO SHAVING PUBES WHY LILY HAHAHAHAHA-was it for giving birth?
    This year will be our 25th Wedding Anniversary and it’s so weird when you start thinking that you’ve been together that long. But there’s nobody else I’d rather be with! He’s my soulmate. And he’s handsome. And funny. I love him!

    • Lily

      I was wonder if it was TMI regarding the pube shaving… but you know me, no holes barred (and no pun intended!!) 25 years is a long time, Tracy. It’s going to be our 9th wedding anniversary this year and when we get to the 25th, I want to think he’s just as handsome and I want to be just as in love πŸ™‚

  • What a great post, Lily! I loved hearing the story of how you guys met and how the courting took place over time. Pube shaving? That’s TRUST. I loved this “So, let’s just all embrace our hearts, be happy for others, be accepting of differences and just love.” Beautiful sentiment!
    I met my husband at work. We work in different departments and on different floors, and who knows if I would’ve met him had it not been for co-workers nudging us to meet. So many people told me “He’s the male version of you!”, and he said he heard I was the female version of him. It’s pretty accurate! We went out once on a non-date – to McDonald’s of all places – and it was ok, but he wasn’t sure if he was going to stay in GA or move back to NC where his parents lived. He also started talking about going back to school and I may or may not have mentally gone la la la la la la la la la because I hate school and don’t understand why anyone who already has a degree would subject themselves to MOAR on top of working FT. Anywho, months passed and a group of us from work went out to the drive-in movies. He and I ended up riding in the same car and couldn’t stop talking and joking and laughing. The chemistry was out of control! I went on a vacation with several girlfriends the next month and I remember telling them “He’s going to be my husband.” We weren’t even dating! I just knew. I had never “known” anything like that before, but I knew. As soon as I got back from the trip, we talked and he asked me out. We started dating and we just clicked. He’s so incredibly smart but also crazy hilarious and completely comfortable with who he is. He’s taught me stand up for myself, which is not easy since I’m a big “turn the other cheek”-er. He’s taught me to never be ashamed of being myself, no matter what anybody else thinks. He’s made me a better person, and I think I’ve made him one, too. It’s so wonderful when you find your person and everything just clicks like it’s always meant to. We celebrated our 1st wedding anniversary in April, and are coming up on our 7th anniversary of being together this October, and I still feel absolute glee when I see him! I’m so happy the U.S. Supreme Court passed gay marriage this week. When I think of how incredible it felt to marry my husband, it makes me a thousand times happier for all of the LGBT couples who can have that same amazing feeling now, too. πŸ™‚

    • Lily

      I totally LOL-ed at your “la la la la la” because you’re so right! Hahaha! I enjoyed studying, but once I started working, I couldn’t go back to studying. It’s so sweet though, both you and your hubby. It’s the best thing when you bring out the best in each other. This post is also inspired by the ruling – it doesn’t matter who we are, who we love… we should be able to show and commit to our love πŸ™‚

  • Liz

    Awww, I loved this post! It’s so sweet that you’ve known each other since 13. πŸ™‚

    I totally LOLed when you got sidetracked about boobs in New Orleans. Tell us about that next, hahaha! And skincare > bags, obviously. Would rather not match leathery face to leathery bags. :O

    I don’t have a partner story but here’s one. When I was little in Korea, I really really loved my puppy and pretty much took care of it by myself while everyone else ignored it. We were living with our grandparents and one of my uncles had a dog that gave birth to a litter. So they gave us one just to get rid of the babies, and I fell in love with that little thing so hard. But one day I woke up to find that my parents gave him away to a distant relative just before my brother was born. (They were such assholes.) I almost hated my brother for it but when he was born, I loved him even more, ya know? Anyway, half a year later, we went to that same relative’s house and my puppy had grown into this huge dog and I was afraid of it at first. But he totally recognized me and I spent all afternoon just hugging him and getting him water because they had chained him to a pole in the sun and it was HOT that day. Anyway, then we moved to Canada and that was that. Never saw him again and my grandmother lied to me that he had died because she got tired of me asking about him. I don’t think that I can ever have another dog again, even without idiot relatives getting in the way. Spotty was THE BEST.

    • SPOTTY HAHAHAHAHA! This is the best doggie love story ever Liz!

      • Liz

        Yeah but kind of sad too as Lily points out. Ah well. I’m a one dog kind of person, I guess. πŸ™‚

    • Lily

      Aaw, I love this! And yeah, Mardi Gras was a total boob fest. Why should girls flash their titties for beads? Guys should flash their dicks for a hoop or something. Anyhoo…
      I feel kinda sad about Spotty. Reminded me of my 2 week love with a little puppy named Brownie. My parents brought him home and we were so excited, we took care of him diligently (my brother and I took turns). It was the first time we had our own puppy, and not a watchdog my parents bought. It was OUR pet. One day, my parents had a gathering with their friends. As they were leaving, there was an accident. This dude reversed his car, and somehow, Brownie was there at the tyre! We heard a yelp and that bastard crushed Brownie’s skull!!! I tell you, my brother and I were crying and screaming at the same time. That dude didn’t even apologize to us! He just apologized to my dad but hey, Brownie was OUR pet, you asshole!
      As you can tell, I’m upset just writing about this. The pain is REAL!
      2 weeks later, this asswipe treated us to lunch as an apology, but no, I still didn’t hear a “sorry” from him directly to us. Until this day, we still remember him and no. He is NOT forgiven.

      • Liz

        OMFG. That is HORRIBLE. HORRIBLE! I once saw the aftermath of a dog hit-and-run and it was traumatizing. I can’t imagine what you guys went through!

        I didn’t mean to bring up painful memories but I don’t have a husband story like everyone else and unfinished stories don’t belong on the internet where things come back to bite you in the ass.

        I hope Spottie and Brownie are romping together in doggy heaven right now!

        • Lily

          It’s ok Liz. It’s good that I remembered Brownie from your story of Spotty. Lol yes I’m sure they’re having a blast in doggie heaven!

  • Helloooo!! My phone’s dying but then I realized I brought my iPad with me!! Your love story’s incredibly sweet, Lily!! With paul* and I, we met pretty awkwardly… I didn’t know we shared the same law lectures back when we were doing a-levels… He approached me (outside the lecture hall) one day and went “how’s it going?” I ignored him and ran into the hall (LOL chicken I am) and proceeded to tell my friends about the “weirdo” outside who acted as if he knew me. Moments later, said weirdo walked in and I was flabbergasted. Can u believe we shared the same lectures for over a year and I wasn’t aware of his existence? Thankfully, we became friends and somehow… Along the way we started dating.. Only after we both went to uni.. Despite being 5 hours apart we made it work πŸ˜‰ funny how things worked out, huh? πŸ˜‰

    • Lily

      Hey Sukie, thank you! Paul is an incredibly sweet guy. I’m so glad I had the opportunity to meet him, because I can tell how much he adores you just by the way he looks at you. Oh, also, quite an eye candy too. Teehee!

  • Bellyhead

    I LOVE a good LOVE STORY, Lily! Obviously he has good taste to have selected a partner (and be mooning over her) over the long years you’ve played hard to get with him. πŸ™‚ Maybe you are lucky he was so gentle with the razor and not haboring any ill will. πŸ˜‰
    I’ve known my husband since I was 14 and he was 16. He younger sister was my freshman year classmate and introduced me to her older, very sophisticated and cool brother. Of course I fell head over heels in love with him (in the usual crushy teenager way) and went gaga over him for years. He said (after we got married), date an underclassman?! UGH! πŸ™‚ Of course, the big joke is he didn’t just date the underclassman, he married one, so who is laughing now, Mr Belly?! We actually fell out of touch while we were in college but started to run into each other randomly in Manhattan, rekindled our friendship which immediately became a relationship and here we are: two kids and many years later.
    Thank you for sharing your hilarious love story and giving us space to share our special stories.

    • Lily

      Thank you for sharing your story as well, Belly! And you always crack me up. You’re right though… he could have tapped into his inner crazies when holding the razor. Eeps! It’s funny how love works, I mean, from reading all the stories here. Love just happens! Your Mr Belly is really funny though. I just recalled the video you posted on Instagram. HAHAHA!

  • I loved this, Lily! And I can kind of relate! I met my soon-to-be husband when I had just turned 15 and he was 18. He was my first true love and it makes me really proud to say that as we grew up together we only grew closer and closer and that our two paths eventually became one. I want what he wants, he wants what I want, and it just feel so good to be SO in sync with someone.

    • Lily

      Aaw, that’s so sweet, Melissa. When are you getting married? You’re going to be a gorgeous bride πŸ™‚

      • Aw, thanks Lily! August 22! *gulp*

        • Lily

          That’s so soon! Hope all the wedding preparations are done. How exciting!

          • He asked me last August, so we had a year to prepare. The most important stuff is done, just gotta take care of the last details now.

  • Such a beautiful love story with realistic bits in a very well written way. I started reading it yesterday in the morning and couldn’t stop so I was late, you are the one to blame.
    I met hubby during PhD, we were both attending the students program of a big company and working in the same campus. I sent PhD mailing list a riddle, and he was the one who was most interested so we started mailing each other (technical that is!). Then we coincidentally met and I was like “Oh this guy is so hot but his shoes not so much”.
    Anyway, we started going to the movies and stuff, like teenagers. Then we started meeting to discuss about isolated mathematical problems of our PhDs, how romantic right hahaha.
    Anyhow he was being a bit slow and there was another guy I was seeing. After I ended up with him one night, he suddenly recognized, oh well, he is loosing me, this was when he told me he loved me. Then we dated for a year and we started living together right after, rest is story.
    I sometimes wake up in the morning and look at him, smile and feel so lucky. Is this love? Needless to say, I always go with him to shoe shopping nowadays because if I don’t shit happens ;-p

    :-* Thanks so much for the beautiful essay, have a lovely day.

    • Lily

      Hey Sara, I remember the photos you posted of him on the blog. He’s hot alright… and LOL at you mentioning his shoes. HAHAHA! And you really have it good. He goes everywhere shopping with you, and he’s ever so patient! Definitely a keeper πŸ™‚

    • Jaa

      “I always go with him to shoe shopping nowadays because if I don’t shit happens” – this = HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA I almost choked on my food HHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

      • Hahaha, and this is not even a joke!
        But we still laugh about it
        Glad to make you smile πŸ˜‰

    • HAHAHAAA Sara!!! You made me laugh so hard with the “Oh this guy is so hot but his shoes not so much”….. umm….. my hubby makes me shop for everything with him! Even ONLINE!! He can’t check out a shopping cart without me sitting next to him approving all his purchases! And when he does, he ends up returning everything he bought cos as it turns out, he really can’t be trusted with his own tastes! It’s a good thing I chose him, not the other way around. πŸ˜‰

  • Jaa

    Such a lovely story to read from you, Lily! And also from other commenters, too! Relationships can be confusing at times but I believe if you’re meant to be together then you will always be together regardless! I immensely enjoyed this post and the comment section. I hope you don’t mind that I’m not sharing my personal stuff here because I really feel awkward talking about it! Maybe one day I’ll be brave enough like you and everyone else here! πŸ˜€

    One thing I know is I’m so happy for my LGBT friends in the US. The ruling has brought them immense joy and happiness and I’m just so so happy for them that they can now finally marry! Hopefully Thailand will follow suit soon. I have so many LGBT friends here as well and I can tell they want to move to the US. Haha

    • Lily

      I’m glad you enjoyed it Jaa πŸ™‚ You can talk about your love story with makeup you know. Lol lol! And yes, I’m happy that the ruling passed. A good change!

  • Thanks for sharing! I’ve always known you have a beautiful family, and reading about how it all started makes us feel happy.
    I came from a lifestyle blog in the Korean language and sharing personal bits didn’t really work out for me, which is why my current beauty blog is more of a “show ‘n’ tell”. I still love reading stories like yours and even more so because you’re a dear friend. Does this make me selfish? ;p

    • Lily

      Hey Lena, I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you. I reveal bits and pieces of myself once in a while but I never really think how it might bite me in the ass later. I’ll just take it as it comes, I guess. I know I won’t be talking about raising children though. It’s like inviting fights and bitching. Oh and definitely nothing of breastfeeding or formula feeding. That’s just war. It’s crazy. Lol!

  • Oooohhhh what a gorgeous post Lily, thanks for writing it. How cute that he was all shy at the beginning it made me laugh. I’m going to read this a few times because I love it. I also love reading the fact that things might not always be perfect 100% of the time from the beginning. I think that’s what has got to me more because to tell you the truth I feel like I’m coming out of a patchy life moment and selfishly needed to read such a beautiful story. xxx

    • Lily

      Hi Sofia, happy thoughts to you and hope everything works out, whatever it is. We still have our ups and downs. Nothing is 100% I say. It takes effort and sincerity to make a relationship last. But through every fight, we understand each other more. If you need someone to talk to, just email me πŸ™‚

      • I’ll remember every word and I’ll email you if needed <3

  • Omg this post gave me all kinds of warm, oozy feeling inside!!! I thought the guy i dated from JC was The One you know… and we dated for 7 years. I even made myself work hard, get a scholarship so i can study in the US just to be with him. It was nuts. But i guess things happen for a reason, and i’m grateful he was in my life when he did, because otherwise i’d never have done all the things i did. Of course, that story didn’t have a happy ending, but I have such a lovely little boy now, i can only be grateful for the man who is now in my life!

    • Lily

      I thought the guy I dated when I was at university was the one but we didn’t last more than 3 years. LOL! It’s weird where live takes you too. I’m sure your husband is lucky to have found you πŸ™‚