Sunday Stash Shopping #60: Every Day Boring Makeup and A Big Rant

For a blogger who needs to socialize on social media, I’m actually very anti social in real life. I only keep a small group of friends, and I am happier that way. I do keep a personal Facebook page, and throughout these years I’ve maintained the page, I also kept my circle of friends small. I kept it only to keep in touch with friends overseas, and perhaps a few old classmates. I do not add friends from work unless they’re colleagues turned friends but from personal experience, unless you really clicked, once you left the job, colleagues (friends with benefits) will become strangers (no benefits, no friends). However, those who remained friends will be friends for a long time. So it baffles me to no end, that people will want to add you as a friend just because you’ve met ONCE. Maybe just shook hands and said hello, nothing more. That person hunted you down on Facebook and added you as ‘friend’. I find that creepy. I have since changed my Facebook settings so no one can find me with just my name. Then, some people might think just because they’re friends with your husband, they’re friends with you too. Well, that’s very friendly, thanks but the thing is, you never even met me before. WTF?

Just yesterday, I saw some feed by people I didn’t know. Then I realized I was added to 2 public pages/ groups where people shared photos and videos that I find offensive to women. I tracked down the pervert who added me and unfriended that asshole. This is the consequence of adding obligatory Facebook friends.

Some might not understand why it’s so annoying, but if you’re like me, introvert, one who likes to keep her circle small and cozy, you might understand. I want my circle to consist of people I feel comfortable with, rid of bitches who stab your back, or assholes who follow Trump. It’s my personal space, and if the person doesn’t like it, well, I know I won’t miss them in real life either.

Is it just me?

Boring old me has also been stuck in a makeup rut. I’ve only been wearing light eye shadow, blue liner, mascara, blush and lipstick. We have here Colourpop Super Shock Shadow in Smash, Bobbi Brown Perfectly Defined Gel Liner in Sapphire, Colourpop Super Shock Cheek in Bonus and Dior Addict Extreme in Spring Ball Extreme. I’m using Dior New Look mascara and Shu Uemura H9 brow pencil in Stone Grey. Of course, there is concealer under my eyes to cover dark circles. I’ve been using Bobbi Brown’s Intensive Skin Serum Corrector and Concealer a lot. I LOVE THEM!

 

 

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Oh yeah, also, Beauty.AI, can you please stop sending me emails. I do not agree with the concept of having some robot tell me how old I look, and I do not need anyone to tell me if my face is wrinkly or if I’m beautiful. NO WOMAN SHOULD BE TOLD THAT. Number doesn’t mean a thing. In fact, the older we get, the richer our life experience is, which makes us all that more beautiful. Wrinkles around my eyes show how much I’ve laughed, and wrinkles around my face will tell me I’ve lived a long fruitful life. I use good skincare to keep my skin healthy and plump and as a result, wrinkles might have been delayed compared to those who don’t take care of their skin. However, there is NO STOPPING ageing, unless I’m dead. All women should age gracefully, and shame on anyone who tells us women to rewind time for more beautiful skin. Why don’t you pick on men for a change, and invent some serum to stop saggy balls?

 

 

xoxo Lily

 

 

 

  • I totally get what you are saying. I feel the same way and I set my Facebook settings as private as I don’t like the idea of me commenting on some friends’ posts end up being in 20000 other strangers’ feed.

    • Lily

      Oh yes. My profile is now very private. Lol

  • LOL, Lily! Laughing so hard at “saggy balls”! I’m afraid many of then can’t even see them for themselves that don’t care if they are saggy.
    I think you pretty much reminded me why I don’t have a personal FB page. Some just want to expand their connections or whatever, but you can always suggest linkin or something to them. We have every right to build and form the shapes of our SNS as we please. 😉

    • Lily

      Sorry I just had to write about saggy balls. Hehe. And yes of course they have a right to network. Just like I have every right to reject 🙂

  • hahaha you are so funny. i agree, whoever this AL is, sounds like a dumb robot! And men who feel obligated to have to comment on women’s blogs not because they appreciate beauty and makeup but because they’re just bats. Ugh.

    I agree with you about FB. I have a personal FB page too, and maintain it to keep in touch with old friends, classmates and family members. I do unfriend idiots that worship Trump and other nasty politicians. Recently, I unfriended an old elementary classmate who was defending Martin Shkreli. He’s the worst human being on this earth. Total dirtbag.

    Anyway, sorry for my rant! 🙂 I do love the blue eyeliner. Keeps things interesting 🙂 Not boring at all!

    • Lily

      I think rants keep us mentally healthy. It musty be bad for the soul to keep all those negativity and here, it’s a healthy harmless outlet where we just rant, then forget about it.
      Yes, blue liner does make things less boring. It’s on heavy rotation at the moment!

  • Shu Ting

    I am the same as you!! I keep my Facebook circle small as well and I have a different account for adding work people. Always separate personal from work circles. 🙂

    GAGAGAGA saggy balls!!! Oh dear!! That’s so funny!! Is there ever a product for this? HAHAHA

    By the way, how do you get colorpop to ship to you? As I know, they don’t ship to Malaysia, do they? 🙁

    • Lily

      Hi Shu Ting, how have you been? It’s been a while! I don’t think there’s anything for saggy balls but tighter underwear I guess. Lol!
      A dear friend gifted these to me for my birthday. No, as far as I know, they don’t ship here 🙁

      • Shu Ting

        Hello Lily, I am coping with the life of handling a small baby!! Never thought it’s going to be quite as taxing as this. And I miss work (really!!). HAHA! Popping out to supermarket is like going to spa for me! How sad! 🙁 Hope this will be behind me soon. We are going for a long road trip next week so I am looking forward to that!

        How about you? How have you been yourself? Keeping up with fitness eh? 🙂 Never give up, never surrender! 🙂 You will achieve your goal soon!

        About color pop, yeah I am really curious about the quality of the eyeshadows and the blushes. But hell to no shipping here. Booo!

        • Lily

          Hi Shu Ting. I feel you!! Handling a small baby is a HUGE feat, and yes, going to the supermarket is a legit outing. Hahaha! Ashton is now 1 year old, so it’s easier in some aspects, but now that he can walk, he can’t sit still, so that’s a whole challenge on its own – not to mention having to bring the 2 girls as well. I get paranoid because I read news about kidnapping and all that, so I try to go only when I have help.
          I try to keep up with fitness but it seems to be more difficult during the school holidays. Can’t wait for the girls to go back to school so there’s a fixed routine! I kind of give up buying things online now. Our local custom / pharmacy department is too inconsistent, and randomly confiscate stuff, saying it’s illegal to import cosmetics to begin with. It’s a total WTF moment, with all the cusses but it’s just not worth it. That’s Malaysia for you. Sigh.

          • Shu Ting

            Oh yeah the kidnapping news are really scary. The recent case where two men snached the kid right in front of his mother in front of the kindergarten was all over the Thai news. 🙁 Not good…

            Yeah I also find MY customs are a bit strict. Maybe because cosmetics is 0% tax there?

            • Lily

              I don’t know about our customs, but the thing is, they’re not strict 100% of the time. They just choose to be strict whenever they feel like it, which is bloody annoying. There are many kidnapping news here, floating around FB to ask for help. It’s very scary but life has to go on. I guess we just have to be super duper careful and be very alert of our surroundings.

              • Shu Ting

                Last time I sent my mum some packets of collagen powder (to keep her youthful), and the customs detained the parcel for so long. Well, can’t blame them because the powders are white. They have all the right reason to suspect it’s something else. Anyway, that was quite reasonable I think, although my parents had so much trouble claiming it from the customs.

                About FB and kidnapping news… are all of them genuine?

                • Lily

                  Hahaha yeah, white powder. Can’t blame them 😉 I don’t know if all of them are genuine, but you’d wonder about the person who thinks this is funny enough to make a prank out of it, right? But so far, the cases do make it in the news. It’s very sad. I can’t imagine how the parents feel. I think I’d go mad, literally. I won’t be able to take it.

      • Shu Ting

        It’s been a month since I last responded… oh well… better late than never!

        I’m good, thank you. My baby is now 2 and half month old, she’s getting into a routine with more or less fixed time of sleeping and feeding, so that’s great! My two older girls have been very sweet towards the baby. They adore her. And they also like helping around (well, sometimes if they are not preoccupied by their own pretend plays).

        As for colorpops, we can only drool from far far away for now…. sigh…

        • Lily

          Time really flies though. My baby was 2 months this time last year. Now he’s 14 months, walking around, trying to run, and he’s learning to talk. He’s very cheeky, and he tests his limits all the time. LOL! The girls adore him, but maybe because they’re so much bigger?
          As for ColourPop, well, if it makes you feel better, they’re not all that. If you already have high end brand makeup in your stash, then you really don’t need this. In my opinion, from the few that I tested, the quality is decent, the price is very attractive, but the products you get are probably a fifth of the amount you get normally. Yup, they are cheaper, but you get very little product so you hit pan very quickly.

          • Shu Ting

            Yeah I find that my older girls are the same too. They are 6 and 4 years apart from the baby so they don’t feel they need attention from mummy so much, which is a good thing at the moment! 🙂

            As for hitting pans, one never really hit pans on eyeshadows anyway! 😀 I am really just curious about the bouncy texture. hahaha

            • Lily

              Hahaha I know. I haven’t hit pan on eye shadows before! I wouldn’t call the texture bouncy though. It’s like cream to powder, a tiny bit squishy but on my lids, I need a primer 🙂

  • Hi Lily,
    I can understand why you are so keen about keeping the Facebook circle small. I didn’t do it like you did and added everyone. I was so frustrated with the number of people I had, I had to quit that account and start all over. Love this minimalistic look on you, very fresh and pretty.

    • Lily

      Oh gosh Sara. Trust me, I had that thought once when I felt really bad having to unfriend people I accepted out of obligation. Then, I decided I had enough and just cut ties. HAHAHA!

  • Pretty! I hear ya on the whole Facebook dilemma. I guess I have accepted requests from way too many people… Don’t friend people who aren’t actually friends, right?

    • Lily

      Well, there really isn’t anything wrong with having lots of friends, even if they’re just someone you hardly know. I sure know some people who love having thousands of friends on Facebook. Just not my cup of tea!

  • k r i s t e n //

    LOL! SAGGY BALLS!! You are hilarious and so right on everything you said here. I too had many strange experiences on social media like the ones you talked about. I think outside of using social media for blogging, it’s a great idea to have accounts that are just personal ones for true friends. I think it’s an excellent idea to have some parts of your life that are private except to those you love and trust and having some privacy on social media is a very positive thing! I’m still on my instagram break but I’ll probably go back after the first of the year. This time though, it’s going to be a private account. It’s strange to have hundreds of ghost followers when you’re posting something non blog related. It feels weird! I’ve missed everyone’s instagram posts a LOT! I always enjoyed seeing your good morning posts because I knew it was time for me to go to bed, LOL! Beautiful look here, Lily! I love Colour Pop. Their shadows are just creamy and lovely.
    Thinking of you, my friend! Lots of love!

    • Lily

      Kristen!!!!!!!!!!! I’m so happy to “see” you here. I missed you so much. I think somehow, you’ve touched my heart and I’ve fallen for you. HAHAHA! If you have a private Instagram account, you need to add / accept meeeee (I sound like a stalker now). But yeah, my Facebook circle has reduced to a handful and I’m cool with that. I thought of deleting my account at first, but I would lose touch with friends overseas. I love the Colour Pop stuff!! Thanks so much buddy. I’ve been enjoying them every day lately 🙂

  • ML Chan

    Totally hear ya! And totally agree! Strange then, that we do what we do, right? 🙂 At least, that’s what I think when I have my own mini rant in my own head – heh!

    Happy Holidays to you and your very cute family!

    • Lily

      LOL yes, the things we do sometimes are so contradictory. But hey, I see it as a challenge to myself to be out of my comfort zone 🙂 And thanks ML, happy holidays to you too!

  • Yep I’m also quite “antisocial” or introvert in real life and prefer to have few but good friends. I love your simple look and its inspired mine for today. I love the Bobbi Brown serum corrector and concealer, which when the sales assistant put it on me I was not impressed with having to buy both (double price!! AHH), but wow I love it now! Your last paragraph made me laugh, who is BeautyAl? So rude! XXX

    • Lily

      Hey Sofia, I refuse to put a link for this Beauty AI people because they don’t deserve the exposure. Hehe. Funny how most of us who comment are introverts in real life. I wonder if the trolls online who bash innocent people are introverts too. They might have all these pent up anger and frustrations and are only comfortable letting it out online because they think they’re anonymous. For all you know, they’re really timid in real life. Something to think about. HAHAHA!

  • i was laughing so hard in bed last night reading your parting comment about SAGGY BALLS!!! Lift ’em up dammit!! ROFL!!! I’m with you about keeping Facebook private, and I stopped going on it for about a whole year because it was getting out of hand… then recently I thought I had things under control, went back shared a video with my “friends & family” of Ezra’s graduation concert… then bam! Somebody reposted my video and shared it with a whole bunch of other people whom I didn’t know!! I had all the privacy settings, etc… but as it turned out, that reposter (a distant cousin of my husband’s) was able to still repost it and it was seen by people who are related to my husband (just because I tagged him on the video). So right away, I turned off all sharing to that cousin and basically shut out anybody with whom I had not exchanged a single word with throughout the past year! My husband said I was being rude and anti-social, but I just don’t think it’s cool that people think they share the same last name, they have the same right to my privacy. I’m not those kinds of moms who want their kids’ faces going viral, and though I’d occasionally share it, I just don’t like other people to pass it along. Is that unreasonable??

    • Lily

      It’s not unreasonable at all! The thing is, why would he want to share it? I would hate it if someone shared my photos or videos. I’d probably block that person. LOL!