“Wow you are so strong! You don’t look like it.”
“Oh wow, you are so much fitter than I am, but why do you still look chubby?”
These are some of the things some people say. Am I going to cry? Nope. Am I going to get hurt because of their words? Nope. Why? Because it is true.
By Asian standards, I am on the heavy side. I am 5’3″, and I wear US size 6 and sometimes 8. I have bigger boobs than most Chinese ethnics here in Malaysia and I have broader and straighter shoulders than most. I used to have smaller and flatter butt but thanks to heavy squats and deadlifts, I now get compliments for a round and perky butt. So, now I look more balanced. I just need to be strong enough to be consistent with my food choices.
Honestly though, when I was younger and very insecure about myself, meaningless words would hurt very much. It would affect me in unimaginable ways. Then again, they are only words. Is it illegal that they call me names? No. Can I stop them? No. It’s freedom of speech and they just choose to use their words to hurt people. So, the only way to handle things is to change how I perceive those words.
Fat shaming or body shaming, it’s really just part of life. It doesn’t matter what shape you are. Even if you’re hot AF, you’ll still get shamed somehow. Why? Because there are assholes in this world. There are trolls. So, deal with it. Of course, there are some people who counter attack by shoving more pictures in their face, and shout body confidence – to which I go, HAHA!
However, while I support body confidence and acceptance, I do not agree with those who are obese and refuse to do anything to change their state of unhealthiness. Accept where you’re at, and WORK AT being healthier. That’s my definition of body acceptance. Love yourself. I also disagree when some people encourage the obese to stay obese. That’s just evil. Obesity kills.
And I digress.
I may get shot because it’s such a politically incorrect thing to say. Maybe some will get really defensive and start shooting hate arrows at me. This is not hate speech. Just because someone says something you disagree with does not mean it’s hate speech. It’s just disagreement! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Society nowadays get butt hurt too easily and they just make things more complicated than it really is. Speak your mind, have a drink, have a little debate, then shake hands and move on, happy to learn how others think too.
If we are confident in who we are, then why would other people’s words mean so much that it becomes a form of violence? Why would you need others, strangers even, to accept you so badly that you need to shove it in others’ faces? “Accept me and love me, or you’re evil!” People in general are courteous until you step into their personal boundaries. Everyone has his or her own beliefs and I don’t think it’s right to force others to change. What you think is right may not be right for everybody.
I like to eat avocado with soy sauce. I’m sure there are people who think it’s blasphemy!
When others are an asshole to me, I have learned to wave them off and move on without being affected much. Do you think I’m an asshole right now? If you do, then please just wave me off and move along with your life. That’s what you should do!
Did I digress again? Probably.
Let’s strive to be strong, guys. Strong mentally and physically. Fit emotionally. Be kind. Be nice. Be LOGICAL. I am working on it too because I’m naturally emotional.
What about you? Are you more emotional or logical?